While pregnant with twins, Crystal Duffy endured two-months of bedrest after learning pregnancy was life-threatening– both to her, and her twins. Her memoir of her roller coaster pregnancy, Twin to Twin, was just released in December. Crystal got us up-to-date on her healthcare advocacy project, a lesson she learned during her life-threatening pregnancy and one of the white lies we’ve heard about dental hygiene.
Congratulations on the release of your book, Twin to Twin. What prompted you to write this memoir?
I was transformed—physically, mentally and emotionally—by my medical trauma. I wanted to share my emotional tale to empower other moms and families experiencing similar situations.
What was the most surprising thing you learned during your high-risk pregnancy?
Sometimes—regardless of your age, medical history, diet or exercise regimen—things just happen. There is no explanation, no warnings and no right answers. You have to be on top of your own healthcare and be your own spokesperson.
Can you tell us about your mission to #ChangeTheConversation about the relationship between healthcare providers and patients?
#ChangetheConversation is about being engaged in your own healthcare, knowing your body, doing the research, and being educated about your diagnosis so that you can collaborate with your healthcare team and be an active part of the decision-making process.
If you could hand off one chore to someone else each day, what would it be?
Laundry. There are five people and a dog in our house. There’s always a load in the washer or dryer.
What is your favorite thing to do to relax and unwind?
Grab the latest chick lit book and curl up on my couch with a fuzzy blanket.
What is your best parenting hack?
I try to knock out bath time in the afternoons before me or the kids get too tired.
What is the best white lie that you’ve told your child?
“The tooth fairy won’t leave you any money for your teeth if you don’t floss them.”
If you could describe motherhood/fatherhood in one word, what would it be?
What’s one moment in your motherhood journey that has made you proud?
One evening when my husband was giving our daughters a bath, I overheard him ask the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Our daughter Katie, who had in months prior always said she wanted to be a ballerina, surprised us. She smiled and said, “I want to be a mommy and a writer, like Mommy.”
What is one piece of advice you want to pass along to your children?
Your life will always be full. If you are going to add something, you have to take something out.
What is one piece of advice you would pass along to other moms?
Life is about progress, not perfection.
How do you tackle the work/life balance?
I make a list of three things that need to get done each day and get those three things accomplished. Everything else is a bonus.
What was the last book you read?
How to Be a Happier Parent by KJ Dell’Antonia.
Favorite Beauty Product:
LipSense lipgloss—I have ten different colors. It’s a great way to add a pop of color to your everyday makeup.
Favorite Form of Exercise:
What is on your DVR?
The Handmaid’s Tale
Favorite Kids Store: