author and Actress
BCM: HOW DID YOUR LIFE CHANGE WHEN YOU BECAME A MOM?
JK: My vagina became wider. Just kidding. well, not really, alas. Life changed in countless indescribable ways and felt like falling in love again. Zero to one kid was the biggest jolt to the system, especially cause I am such a sleep-loving sloth. But Sadie’s arrival was the best because I was addicted to scooping her out of her crib and my heart would literally pound like Roger Rabbit when I was going to get her. I always knew I wanted to be a mom and was almost more ambitious about that than my career, so when I had her I felt so grateful like a dream came true.
BCM: WHAT HAS/HAVE BEEN YOUR MOST MEMORABLE MOMENT(S) AS A MOM?
JK: Usually the funny stuff. The general umbrella things like cute fat feet and delicious cuddles are all like a collage in my brain but the most specific memories involve the hilarious comments or observations they make, whether it’s Fletch asking a fat guy with a white beard if he’s Santa or Sadie asking 80-year-old Rupert Murdoch if he was his six-year-old daughter’s Grandpa. I also cherish their responses to theater, especially ivy being moved to tears at the end of Phantom.
BCM: WHAT HAS BEEN THE BIGGEST CHALLENGE FOR YOU IN MOTHERHOOD? ANY ADVICE FOR NEW MOMS?
JK: The sleep-deprivation thing sucked balls, but i’m glad I didn’t have any help the first time- it was baptism by fire and even though I was a zombie who cried during Volvo commercials I would not trade that sweatpants hermit time for anything. That said, I do think new moms should get some help so they can retain their own identity and have time for their friendships and marriage as well…
BCM: Congratulations on all of your success (so far!) as a best-selling author (Momzillas, The Ex-Mrs. Hedgefund, etc.) and writer and much more! What inspired you to write your first book?
JK: I was a screenwriter and sold a couple scripts to Paramount and was cooling my heels waiting for them to be produced while writing shows for MTV as a freelancer to stay busy and my agent suggested a new spec script. When my writing partner Carrie and I submitted the Right Address as a screenplay, our agent said it was too New Yorky and esoteric a milieu; she feared the rarified gilded cages of Park Avenue wouldn’t appeal to what she called “Betty Bowling Alley.” We disagreed, pointing out certain films, but she said they had all started as novels. So we novelized it! And it was so fulfilling to pump time and energy into work that would actually see the light of day.
BCM: Tell us about co-writing Pirates and Princesses with your daughter, Sadie
JK: It was a blast. We wrote it for her class at school since there had been a “gender war” and Harry and I were called in and I was so upset. (It’s funny how time heals all that school shit you thought was catastrophic at the time). We decided to write the story as a mirror to her class and then have a happy ending. The kids loved it and my husband suggested I send it to my agent, who sold it to Penguin in two hours. It was such a thrill and I love having little kids come up and tell me they love the book.
BCM: We’re beyond excited for your debut in Odd Mom Out, a scripted series coming out this Spring on Bravo. Please tell us about it and can share any fun stories from the set?
JK: ODD MOM OUT was absolutely far and away the best professional experience i have had- it was such a family and the months of production were insanely busy with 15 hour shoot days but so laugh-packed and hysterical I am already praying for a season two. It’s about the stay-at-home mom scene on New York’s Upper East Side where there is a lot of excess with private jets and drivers and half the Philippines living with them. I guess the best anecdote would be life imitation TV when my character loses her anal virginity (i’m an ass virgin in real life) and everyone was teasing character Jill in the scene and then real me afterwards.
BCM: You have three children, a successful author, actress – how do you “balance” it all?
JK: Oh I don’t. I try but I’m constantly fucking stuff up. I just do my best. I’m pretty organized and have a Filofax like it’s 1987 which helps. But mostly I just try and make the weekends really count and do fun outings and adventures. The weekdays are survival mode and I spend alone time with each kid which is more of a fun connection than chaos management.
BCM: What are your favorite activities to do with your children? What has been your best family vacation so far?
JK: London rules with kids! We love museums and galleries which we do a lot here at home and we love plays and the opera and the kids are super us using New York as a third parent. We are out and about all over the city all the time and never stay in our petri dish.
MY FAVORITE NYC ACTIVITY IS..New York City Ballet